Tips on how to enjoy your sex life without female enhancement drug

11 Sex Tips That Are Better Than ‘Female Viagra’

By Ellen Seidman

Hold back

The longer the trip, the better the arrival: If you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, slow down and delay the pleasure, recommends sex educator Dorian Solot, author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide ($13, amazon.com). Keep repeating that and the payoff will be even more amazing.

Make like you’re in a movie scene

Nobody’s recommending that you fake it, but exaggerating moves can get you into a sexy mindset and perk up your pleasure, per clinical sexologist Eric Marlowe Garrison, an instructor of masculinity studies at the College of William and Mary. By all means, breathe heavily and arch your back and make some noise.

Do something thrilling (outside of bed)

Thrill-seeking activities such as watching a scary Netflix movie or going rock climbing can stimulate dopamine in the brain, and get your body revved for sex.

Get in breath sync

Devotees of tantric sex—which is all about focused breathing—have found that when partners breathe in tandem, it can create a bigger buildup to orgasm and max out pleasure.

Exercise those muscles down below

Kegels can transform feeble orgasms into fabulous ones, Solot says. How they help: Kegels strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles, which contract during orgasm. If they’re stronger, you could have a more intense climax. How to do Kegels: Do 10 quick contractions, then another 10 and hold for 5 to 10 seconds each. Aim for two to three sets a day.

Deal with stress

Work stress can have a downer impact on your libido, research has found. To avoid getting distracted by deadlines (or, worse, your evil boss), find ways to minimize stress before the day is done. Steal a move from the French, who know a thing or two about joie de vivre, and have a relaxing petit aperitif when you’re home from your commute—a small glass of wine with a small snack, like nuts or pita chips with hummus and olives.

Try not to get too focused on the big O

While climaxing during intercourse gets all the glory, research suggests that the excitement felt during foreplay can be just as pleasurable—so don’t worry that you’re missing out and just enjoy.